i was in the basement, just moments ago, trying to do laundry that's a week overdue when i got to thinking about my parents. it dawned on me, how wonderful they are, how selfless (yet reasonable) they are, how helpful they are. they truly are good parents & i would have to say that they have done most things right, even when they seem wrong at the time. i have a sister who lives out of state with her own family of 5. whenever the 5 of them visit, my parents give up their own king size bed in their own bedroom & settle for a full size in a child's room to accommodate the needs of their children. there was a time they would settle for bunk beds, until i took them for my children. i'd say, in that case, i did them a favor.
on the other hand, i spent a week at a beach house with other family members (i refuse to name names because someone may read this and let word spread, not like they won't be able to figure it out by now), and there were four bedrooms upstairs. those rooming upstairs included two sets of pairs & two sets of pairs w/ a child. wouldn't you know, both sets of pairs cozied themselves up in the only two big rooms in the house, leaving the other two closet-sized rooms for the other two couples who each had a child (i was a member of a pair w/ child). and they had absolutely no intention of giving up their luxury to accommodate their own children who had children. i had to step on our crib mattress just to get to the door to exit my room & kneel on my bed to dress. & someone even had the audacity to offer a place in her big room for my daughter, only. even though i paid an equal portion into the week rental.
now, i believe myself to be a reasonable person. i'm willing to step aside so that the needs of another can be met. i'm also sensible, and i know how to not be walked over. i have questions... what makes us believe that our own desires are more important than meeting a need in which we have the power to do so? why can't we give up a big bedroom to someone who has to fit in more people, instead of offering to take away their toddler for the week? why can't we suck it up and take care of the newly moved in, immobile, elderly woman (who is also family, & in this situation, can you believe i was actually asked if she was an inconvenience to me)? who do we think we are that causes us to be so unwilling to adjust?
it's sickening.
it's even written in our nation's Declaration of Independence, which is what separates us from others:
But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same
Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their
right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards
for their future security.
it's a fancy way of saying that if there is a need, anyone who has the ability to meet it also has the responsibility to do so. & God meets our needs, does He not? (& i do say NEEDS). "The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy you needs..." Isaiah 58:11.
i'm gonna end my blog with one message: "he who oppresses the poor shows contempt for their Maker, but whoever is kind to the needy honors God." Proverbs 14:31. & remember, there is more than one way to be poor.
